It's not fun knowing whom you can and cannot trust. It never is and the sad part of that is you never know! So many people lie for one reason or another. I can even see a point to which I would and have when needed, but I guess it's a matter of when and how often and why. I can count how many times I told a lie on my hands. Can you?
Keep in mind this isn't a judgement call on my readers. I empathize with each individual's needs and what they deem as appropriate excuses. If my kid was hungry and we had no money I would lie about my income to get help. There has even been an instance to when I have done this, once. When I am in a bad relationship and it ends, however good or bad, and the other person is in stalker mode I feel it necessary to lie about where I have been or my routine when questioned as I don't trust their actions. I have been in a situation and still am to this day with a party of that sort who would question everything about me, even my blog had they have access to it or want to read it. I have never lied to a loved one or a lover if I while in the relationship with them as I never had need to because I had nothing to hide. Guilty conscious dictates the action of lying and I don't feel guilt as often as most as I consider the act of creating it a futile waste of precious time.
My loathing for the "un"truth stems from early childhood, though I won't blame it on the bogus tales of spring rabbits or religious winter icons. The funny thing is every myth has its truths but most get lost along the way down in the telling and before long what was originally a gift from an old woman who was childless became a sneaky rabbit who liked to play pranks like the mythological Pan and scatter what I call "sparklies" all over for the people to find and enjoy. I loathe lies for the ones I was privy to and witnessed. No parent should ever ask a child to do this for them and yet, many do. I don't tell my kid to lie for me. If there is something I don't want her to share then I don't share with her thus removing the "set-up" of her lying for me and screwing it up and me blaming her for the fault. My mom and dad would repeatedly ask me to lie for them and I hated them for it. (nasty divorce) My child knows the real stories behind the tales of the fairies and elves and bunnies and bogeyman and other nefarious creatures. She knows the darker side of life and the light that lies within and how precious that light is. Despite all the truth I fed her she is still capable and even does lie, but much less often than kids her own age do as I am good at getting to the meat of the matter. Where did she learn this? From you, her father, kids at school, teachers she and I both have seen and caught in such, strangers and even our elected and paid officials such as police and politicians. It is so hard to teach our young not to do the things we ourselves do isn't it?
I hold my head proud and regal that she knows every single one of my indiscretions and their reasons and still looks up to me. I believe that if they are old enough to ask a question then they are old enough to hear the answer, albeit the answers generalized depending upon age. Notice I said generalized and not fibbed or tweaked. We all "godify" our parents and the adults and elders in our lives and then we grow up and learn the truths and see our heroes fall from grace, only to continue the cycle ourselves with our own young. It broke my heart the day I found out and realized my daddy wasn't invincible and honest, the day I found he was human. I was seven and was far beyond my years by that point due to medical issues and it still hurt. Now I accept this as a worldly trait and one to which I have been forced to share, just in a few instances and always without guilt for it is those that would harm me and mine that should bear that emotion, but not one I am willing to continue. I am not human and do not share your guilt for what you have done to each other, but have to live in a world carved by you so I will do so peacefully. My question is wouldn't it have been so much easier to accept things as they are and just get along or keep away as necessary. Lobo is a good girl and now that we know what we are she will adapt. She will accept who she is proudly and see through the ruse of others and be a contributor. She loves her "preachy" momma and her quirky ways, but she really loves that she gets an honest answer even when it's one she doesn't like because it makes her work harder and earn the answers she does like~mobe's love to her all and her all to her loves! Be good to one another but be good to yourself first
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