libido varies from one individual to another. I have been counseling friends and acquaintances for what seems and eternity about sex and sexuality, libido and inhibitions. Now it is time for me to put to word what great knowledge I have amassed on the subject of sex and share it with you all. My purpose in doing this is quite selfish because my own libido is taking a back seat to circumstance and I'm not getting any. And all this "do-gooder" crap is taking its toll! It isn't that I don't care and such because I do, but I also enjoy the folly of "man" in that they create more problems for themselves than they are worth. Having said that this will be my feeble and NON humble attempt to educate you all and erase the inflicted ignorance brought on by family and community and social expectations that you collectively share. I can promise this information will be delivered to you in a funny, sad, scientific, opinioned and serious nature. I warn you that once the door of knowledge is cast open there are no excuses for ignorance and you will never be able to go back there again...knowledge for the most part is permanent and you will no longer be able to hide behind the curtain of "I didn't know" any longer...
THIS MATERIAL IS NOT SUITED FOR PERSONS UNDER THE AGE OF 18 YEARS~mobe
I started this series with the word Libido because that is the beginning of everyone's personal "id" when it comes to sexuality. For whatever reasons, we vary in a libidinal manner and some can blame organic issues (meaning medical for those of you having a hard time following) and others can blame maniacal issues (meaning mental but I'm funnier this way). Either way sexual malfunction or an inability to sync up with one's partner is NOT unique and, here's the good part, you are all able to be fixed! (Ha ha wouldn't it be funny if I meant sterilized?)
Take for instance a married couple who were all vested in the love making when it was satisfying and mutual and "new"...ahh...the new part of love. I am going to focus in this instance on the middle aged variety who seem to have malfunction that would appear mostly on the part of the woman. During the course of menopause our bodies wreak havoc on us and mess with our psyche as well as our physical well being. It happens even to the Wamphyri (for those that love mobe's uniqueness) and lower creatures too as well as males of all types. I had a friend tell me his life was not happy but not without happiness and I asked him what was wrong. The reply was she doesn't give him any or feel like she wants to.
This is normal at their age and it takes its toll in the form of rejection time and again. I have seen more marriages and relationships end on that one factor alone. I asked him if he though it was organic and wouldn't you know it he didn't know! That is unacceptable as you should know. You should have known the first time you noticed a pattern of her rejection. I asked about the nature of their sexual play (yes, I have that right!) and what he did on his part and what she did on her part. His response was to let me know how easy he was to get off! Of course he is easy if he is doing it...hell, I can make myself cum around at LEAST 12 times in 2 hours! But you already admitted through silence that you and your partner don't talk and communicate and so, I have a suspicious feeling they don't navigate each other's seas either.
He is content where he is at aside from her cold shoulder. She may have hormonal imbalance and/or low self esteem that comes along with middle age when we realize as women we are starting to look like our mothers or worse, our grandmothers! Let's assume her issue is purely organic in nature. Vaginal dryness and loss of lust is common in menopausal women. It is hard to go to your mum and ask her if your dad tore her up at that age (lol) and what to do to fix it. So women aren't talking to women either (I see a pattern here). It hurts physically to be touched and leaned on when one's body temperature goes through the change with you. It hurts to be touched sexually when your breasts are tender and sore 24/7 like when you were a child developing into a woman. It hurts to be "entered" when you are not moist and ready for it despite wanting it, and these are all things that can be over come.
There are thousands of lubricants to be had and explored online and at adult stores as well as pharmacies and some discount department stores. I have ONE personal favorite because it is not only odorless, tasteless and works great but it was originally used to massage organs for transplant and has one of the lowest allergic reaction factors out of all I have seen on the market. It is called Eros Bodyglide by "pjur" and is super concentrated. Google "pjur" for more information. I use it as a personal lubricant even without the necessity of intercourse. There are other lubricants that have temperature sensation and tastes added to them. These can be fun but I would recommend bathing/showering after use and intercourse because leaving them on the skin longer increases the potential for allergic reaction.
When it comes to tissue irritation like breasts and such, cool or warm compresses work well. You may think this is maddening and impossible to deal with during sex but you will find that a warm mouth that is GENTLE and not forceful and needy will invoke a desired response. Only you have to remember she will still hurt once she is aroused and you will need to CONTINUE the gentle play in order for the duration to be pleasurable for both. There will be other times to play "Me TARZAN-You JANE!" I have made love to many a man who had a sore phallus from our last night's raucous and this works both way ladies. Don't ride the bronco and "pop" him over and over when he is bruised (unless of course he likes this and is the perfect candidate for mobe's sado-maso side!) and don't use your teeth either!
Mentally speaking there is no way to convey in words that someone is desired when they feel frumpy or inferior or ugly. The only way to convince a woman (or man) that they are wanted is to show them. Caresses well meant is a start, but they have to be what the person wants and not needy on your behalf. Sure a body massage is great but people fail to recognize tell tale signs that the person is either ready or not for a move forward. This we will discuss further down the road. For now think on it, chew it and feel free to question or comment on whatever you want to share either here or FACEBOOK via my wall or our "page" below:
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